Six things to do for someone struggling with social anxiety
Having a person to count on is helpful for people with social anxiety. There are small things you can do to help people with anxiety cope with their situation. Continue reading
How to succeed as a shy student
A shy student may find that shyness is interfering with success in school. Do you find yourself struggling to ask questions in class? Are you a student that is often overlooked for projects or study groups because you don’t stand out?
If being a shy student affecting your school success, you can develop the skills to become comfortable interacting with others. You can try some of the same strategies used by teachers to help their “shy” students feel more confident in the classroom. Continue reading
Owning your shyness at work
It’s the night before the first day of your new job. You’re standing in front of your closet, trying to decide what to wear. Your goal: not to draw attention to yourself. If you’re lucky, no one will notice you and you won’t be forced to engage in conversations that end in awkward silence.
If this is you, you need to remember something very important. Your future boss may already know that you are shy based on your interview, but guess what? He/She picked you for a reason. Not only did you demonstrate that you were the best candidate for the job, but you have something that your boss longs for–the voice of reason. This voice is something that you’ve developed strongly, probably as a result of your shyness and your experiences as a shy person. Continue reading
Social Anxiety and Thanksgiving (or Christmas, or any other holiday)
When I look back at the many years that I dealt with social anxiety during the holidays (specifically, Thanksgiving) and how I dreaded the inevitable pressure to eat at the table with everyone else, I can actually say thank you to my old self. Yes it was hard but look how far we’ve come. Yes, it felt like I couldn’t do it but I made it through, year after year. I used the discomfort as my motivator. I would say, I have to work on this because I can’t live like this for the rest of my life. It gets better.
(I feel like I repeat this often, but social anxiety is different from shyness. I’ve dealt with both. I am not 100% over my anxieties because a certain level of anxiety is simply just being human, but social anxiety is no longer a crippling factor for me. So I digress…) It gets better. Continue reading
Leverage Halloween: Uncover Your Confidence
Why not use Halloween to assist in uncovering your confidence? You can try dressing up as a character or person you admire. One that is a close match to who you know you are at your core and at your best! Even if it is a spooky or scary character, what can you draw from that as you take on that persona for a day? Maybe it is a way to be one with your fears and to understand the challenge fears are presenting to you to make you better? Deep, right? LOL. But seriously – you can connect with your authentic self with any character you take on if you are making that link and either exuding the best or learning from the weakness in a way that makes you grow.
This year, despite making huge strides in whipping social anxiety’s behind, I’m still going to leverage the power of Janet Jackson as a pathway to allow my inner dance goddess to shine through – circa the ‘Rhythm Nation’ era! I may post a photo on my social media pages so be sure to follow me! I’m constantly working to make myself better because I compare myself to myself and want to continue to make strides. Halloween is a fun way to do some of that work. Continue reading
Is there such a thing as a shy actor?
Most people believe that actors do what they do because they love to be the center of attention and to have people watching them all the time. Believe it or not, many of the famous people we love to watch are incredibly shy and only do what they do because they love it. The perk is, it can help them overcome their shyness or help them express themselves through a character. Continue reading
Differences: introvert, shy, social anxiety, empath, HSP
Most of us have had times in our lives where we’ve felt shy or uncomfortable meeting other people, especially if it is in a large crowd. But, sometimes, the problem is more than being shy and sometimes it is not shyness, and sometimes it is not a problem – per se. Either way, you should understand that there are lots of other people who understand how you feel. Continue reading
SPEECH: Susan Cain on Speaking Engagements
Learn how Susan Cain handles speaking engagements at Leading@Google
Susan Cain is an introvert. Learn from how she handles speaking engagements.
CONVERSATION: Jada Pinkett Smith & Family
Watch the confidence that Jada Pinkett Smith, her mom, & Willow Smith display in conversation on the Red Table Talks. If you can’t view it, go here: Click here
CONVERSATION: Rachel Sterne on Ground Report’s Future
This is really an interview but it flows like a regular conversation. This is a great example of a great back and forth. What did you think or learn from this? Post comments below.
SPEECH: Majora Carter – Greening the Ghetto
Pay attention to her organized thoughts. Think about how she mapped out her thoughts. Take the time to think about how you can do the same with a topic you are passionate about. What did you learn from Majora Carter’s speech? Share your thoughts. Create your elevator speech about yourself and your passions.
TRAINING: Toastmasters International
Most Toastmasters meetings are comprised of approximately 20 people who meet weekly for an hour or two. Participants practice and learn skills by filling a meeting role, ranging from giving a prepared speech or an impromptu one to serving as timer, evaluator or grammarian.
There is no instructor; instead, each speech and meeting is critiqued by a member in a positive manner, focusing on what was done right and what could be improved. (information found at toastmasters.org)
INTRO: Communication Blog
If you yearn to surround yourself with thought provoking and intelligent dialogue but lack this in your real life, this is the blog for you. You will find the best in conversation right here and maybe you will start to exude and attract this more in your everyday life. If you find that you have trouble explaining your thoughts, analyzing your experiences, communicating your perspectives and expressing yourself in a meaningful manner, the information you find here will help you improve. Upgrade your mind, your conversations, your life. We will post examples of excellent conversations along with tips, recommendations, and more.
Find that “thing” within you that keeps you reaching higher
I have a bachelor’s degree with a concentration in communications. I went through a lot of hurdles to obtain my degree and it is one of my greatest accomplishments. My first stint at college was unsuccessful as a result of my social anxiety. I had the smarts but I found it extremely frightening to ATTEND class, and when I did attend I was not able to participate and could barely breathe. I managed to barely make it through the first year, then in the following year, things increasingly became unbearable. Continue reading
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The terms social anxiety, shy, and introvert are often used interchangeably. This is my way of differentiating them.
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- Social Anxiety = A stronger form of shyness. A debilitating, crippling fear of social situations that creates avoidance. It is a disorder that a licensed mental health professional is trained to treat.
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- Shyness = a fear of social situations that is not strong enough to interfere with day to day activities such as work, school, family life, etc; however can cause a person to feel uncomfortable in social settings. Can be an obstacle in some areas.
- Introvert = a person who prefers quiet and alone time. Social settings can be enjoyable when an introvert has had time to recharge via alone time; however, social settings drain energy. Introverts are just as awesome as extroverts and ambiverts. (Susan Cain’s New York Times bestseller, “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking,” is a popular source of information about introverts.)
All of the above look different on everyone. Also, a person can be an extrovert, ambivert, or introvert, yet experience shyness or social anxiety.
What do you think? How do you define these terms?
I want to help you peel away shyness. Social anxiety is more of a job for a therapist, HOWEVER someone with social anxiety can get great value from coaching and the courses offered here. Introverts are fine the way they are; however introverts may not realize their power and potential and know how to leverage. All are welcome here!
My goal is to get you to exude your core personality without feeling uncomfortable while leveraging all the deliciousness of your sweet spot to achieve goals and make your daydreams come to fruition!
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